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04:55 Apr 30 2012
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We spent a rare day out and about today! My husband awoke and the first words he uttered were "Jockey Lot". That is the name of the local flea market. We wandered around and found a few things here and there. I got my daughter a brand new collectable cookie jar to fill up, an anarchy flag for my son and half ounce of Frankincense essential oil for me; all under $20.
Wandered the dead mall and had a nice lunch before going to the grocery store to seriously wear ourselves out.
I look forward to these rare days when we can just say "fuck the budget" and have fun.
18:08 Apr 28 2012
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I have always been strict with my kids. I expected a certain level of behavior even at the age of 1 or 2. It is such a shame that more people do not feel the same way.
14:48 Apr 27 2012
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Bigots of all types are generally rude.
14:49 Apr 26 2012
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I was up until nearly 4 in the morning finishing modifications on a dress for my daughter. 9 am was to early to be getting up...
15:35 Apr 25 2012
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http://www.wyff4.com/news/local-news/spartanburg-cherokee-news/SCSO-Kids-abused-forced-to-use-bucket-for-bathroom/-/9324158/11811942/-/i34vatz/-/index.html
SCSO: Kids abused, forced to use bucket for bathroom
Tina Marie Taylor-Thomas, Donnie Ray Bragg Jr. charged
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An Upstate mother and her boyfriend are facing charges after an investigation by Spartanburg County deputies.
Deputies said they were called to a Lil’ Cricket Food Store on March 6 about a possible child abuse case.
When deputies arrived, a neighbor of a 15-year-old told them the teen had shown her marks and bruises she said her mother, Tina Marie Taylor-Thomas, and her mother’s boyfriend, Donnie Ray Bragg Jr., had given her.
Deputies said the teen told them she was spanked by her mother 20 times with a paddle because she was suspended from school for stealing candy. She said Bragg hit her 5 or 6 time with a strap the same day.
The teen also told deputies Bragg would make her and her sister run up and down the driveway carrying rocks and make them do hundreds of squats.
She said Bragg makes them pick up gravel and spikes from a railroad track. She said she is only allowed to eat rice, oatmeal, and a vegetable. The teen said Bragg also made her take a bucket and toilet paper and use the bathroom outside. When he sent her outside, the teen said she ran to a neighbor’s house.
Bragg told authorities the children were out of control and he had to use punishments to control them and admitted spanking the teen for being suspended.
Investigators said they interviewed everyone involved and a search warrant was carried out. A judge then ordered the arrest of Bragg and Thomas.
Each have been charged with one count of child neglect and were released on a $10,000 bond.
The teen has been placed by the SC Department of Social Services with a relative.
The two other minor children, a boy age 13-years-old and a girl age 17-years-old, have been taken into protective custody and have been placed with DSS.
04:19 Apr 25 2012
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I have nothing deep or profound to say. There is just nothing right now.
15:35 Apr 22 2012
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Yesterday I saw what a radical mastectomy looks like. A facebook friend privately sent me her pictures. The doctors had to cut out and off everything and then just sewed it closed. I had can't describe properly how butchered she is and it still isn't over. Now they are finding cysts in her uterus and ovaries.
Somewhere, somehow a long time ago I think someone missed a bigger diagnosis and it is killing her slowly.
Up until recently I didn't know her very well. She is the friend of a friend of a friend on facebook. She has messaged me from time to time asking advice on chid rearing and things. I have followed her cancer story peripherally. Her job gave her the alloted period of time for treatment, surgery and recovery but did not take into account that she is terribly allergic to the chemo treatments. Those pics look like something out of a horror movie.
She started talking to me a lot recently because Verizon, the company she works for, downsized their Seattle office and offered employees a severance package or relocation. She opted for relocation and found an office in TN about 5 hrs from here. Close enough to drive down for a few day visit.
Her health situation is something I have seen before. Multiple allergy, asthma, arthritis, diabetes, blood clotting disorder; I know it's genetic. I know it got missed and they are treating the symptoms and I know it will eventually get away from them.
21:21 Apr 17 2012
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After 10 years of bullshit and 5 years of peace I consider what is lost and what is gained.
When I lived with a manipulative, abusive, substance addict life was relatively comfortable. I had a decent job that paid the bills and then some. Me and the kids could go to the movies occasionally or eat out. I could buy them clothes and toys.
He was a slick talker who could put anyone at ease and think he was an ok guy. The type of person who crashes a picnic in the park but no one minds because he helps clean up or can hit a fast ball. His charm ended at home.
So I traded it.
I left my safety and security of home and moved thousands of miles away. No more good job, now I can't even get a handout. The kids get things when we can manage it rather than when they need it because it really is the best we can do.
You know what, I feel like even with everything I lost I still traded up!
I guess that is why I find it hard to be patient with people who told me that I didn't have to live with that kind of treatment only to turn around and complain about the abusive piece of work they are struggling to cope with.
They don't even see it.
18:48 Apr 16 2012
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I cannot bring myself to forsake my principles.
I hold myself and my kids to a higher standard than anyone else expects of us and I do this because it is not enough to meet the standards of others; it is better to meet our own standards.
I believe that we get what we earn; sometimes we pay for it later.
Two weeks ago I planned to send wild flowers to my niece. She needed them for an extra credit because she is failing Science. My sister called me on Wednesday afternoon during spring break and the project was due upon my nieces return to school last Tuesday. Her teacher had issued a seemingly impossible assignment(considering that they live in spokane, Wa and still have snow on the ground)to produce no less than 50 wild flower samples identified and tagged. If my sister had contacted me earlier I certainly may have helped, considering that my niece was told that she had to pay back all shipping(note it was not pay all shipping but PAY BACK). Under the circumstances it placed to much of a strain on me. I could not find a ride to the post office and lacked the money's to afford proper packaging for the project.
This leads to the real reason I decided not to help. She is failing Science because she has handed in none of her homework and slacked off all year. My sister wants her to pass because she has already shelled out $500 non-refundable for graduation costs.
I think my lovely niece better get a J.O.B. and pay her mother back every cent while she gets her but into community college and makes up that credit so she can get her diploma.
Why should she be bailed out?
13:47 Apr 10 2012
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Spring Break is over, the kids are back to school today.
Husband is on vacation this week. I have tomatoes(and other things)to plant in the dirt. I have a house to clean.
aka; I have crap going on other than the Internet STILL.
There is something on my mind though.
Last week while the kids were on spring break I logged on in the morning for coffee and then spent most of my time away. They are teens now but I still feel it is important to be able to focus on them and their needs when they are home. They are very capable young people but far from being grown up and I want to cultivate a lasting relationship with them. I always have.
At one point I was disturbed to come across a posting on fb about young kids, cell phones and computers. After my initial disturbance over the fact that people think it is ok for their 5 year old to have a laptop to look at Nick Jr and youtube unsupervised and their 8 year old to have a cell phone. I was further upset by the fact that some of the people who thought it was a good idea had several very young children who were being unsupervised while "mama"(I use the term loosely)argued at length with people on the Internet. These same women are also posting other questions and active on other boards; hyperactive even.
When my son was a baby I had time when he was napping to do as I liked but toddlers are more work. When a parent is home with them they should be interacting with them not webcamming for hours and arguing with people on the Internet. Who is watching the baby while you goof off?
That was the other thing that upset me; the woman in Oregon who's baby drown in the washing machine because she was using the machine inappropriately and not watching her son.
My daughter was born before my son turned two.
Between nursing, diaper changing, potty training, cooking, cleaning, reading bedtime stories, playing, laundry, grocery shopping, yard work and bathing them I was lucky to have time to eat, sleep and bathe myself. As they got older I decided that it was important that they be able to observe and learn the way I did all of the activities of the day. As toddlers and going into preschool they watched and helped with housework and cooking, they sat and "read" to me, I watched their cartoons and movies and listened to their music, played games with them and all of this while working full-time and spending 20 hours a week(at least)at the ice skating rink with my daughter; she was a competitive skater from ages 3-7.
We got Internet in 2005 and my son had to teach me how to surf the net since he had learned at school. I supervised the Internet activities strictly only leaving the room for minutes at a time. Asked questions about the things they were doing and restricted their time. I did this until we got a second computer a year and a half ago. As teens they have freedom to make mistakes but they know they can talk to me and we can either fix things or I can help them through whatever is going on. They don't feel the need to hide things from me and they appreciate that I am still watchful.
I also freely admit that I don't have time to be online as much as I am and my kids are 14 and 16 now.
As I type this, though my kids may be at school, I have litter pans to scoop a man to feed, floors to sweep and vacuum dishes to wash laundry to wash and fold possibly a grocery trip in my future in addition to a garden to work on in order to have fresh vegetables this year.
So "HOW...THE...FUCK..." does a mom of one or more children over the age of 1 and a half justify ignoring her kids to spend hours and hours online via phone and/or computer while bashing other people for how they take care of their kids?
At least I admit that I am not perfect.
16:28 Apr 06 2012
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Apparently having a cellphone and on the Internet is the right of every child old enough to press a button. I am an overprotective parent and have suffocated my children with my attitude of noncomplacence. Whatever shall I do now that the damage is already done?
They are cynical, untrusting of people they do not know and they have a sense of personal responsibility.
I have apparently destroyed their lives.
05:40 Apr 05 2012
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I logged in. I looked around.
It is still spring break so I am lucky to have any time on the computer at all :P
I plan on being bust the rest of this week and into next.
Have a nice weekend.
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